Living single in 2019

July 30, 2019

I was born in 1981 and like many of my friends, we are in the age group where there are certain expectations as it relates to the state of life.

When I look around, most of my classmates are married or divorced, have become parents, and are living the typical life that most people are taught to aspire to.

Actually, if you are over 35 and unmarried and childless, you are considered somewhat of a failure.

I am constantly being asked by family and friends: “When are you going to get married and settle down?” or “What are you waiting for to have children?”

I think that we are all in control of what our lives look like and not everyone is trying to fit the traditional mould of marriage and children.

As a result, there is pressure from friends and relatives that can negatively affect the overall quality of life of the single, childless individual.

It can be a little insensitive to constantly berate someone about their childless status, especially if you don’t know all the details of why they have not had any children.


Infertility is a real issue that affects both men and women, and it can be a source of great depression that these individuals are unable to procreate.

So instead of using their status as an opportunity to tease that person, take the time to find out what’s really happening and be a support system for them.

Based on romantic comedies, it’s pretty easy to meet someone, connect with them, get to know them, form a commitment and live happily ever after.

Unfortunately, real life is not so perfect – finding a partner that will meet the relevant expectations is not as easy.

Contrary to popular opinions, age is not just a number. Older, single people find it a little more difficult to date than they did in their younger days.

After 35, many women are not very comfortable putting themselves out there to meet new relationship prospects, especially when it seems that most of the men her age are interested in the younger women.

Everyone wants to decide their own versions of happiness. So instead of being so judgemental of each other’s choices, how about we accept the decisions that people are making and be supportive where necessary?

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