Looking forward to the adventures of the next decade

December 31, 2019
A woman poses for a photo at an installation for the New Year on Red Square decorated for Christmas and New Year celebrations with the Spasskaya Tower in the background in Moscow, Russia.

It is the last day of 2019 and the end of a decade. For most of us, at this time of the year, we are busy evaluating the last 12 months and making resolutions for the new year to come. I spend a lot of time throughout the year figuring out how I can be better – in business, as a friend, as a person, and as a partner in my relationship. So I want to look at the last 10 years and see how I have grown and what lessons I can take into the next year and beyond. Over the last 10 years, I have become a different person in so many ways, and I am very happy with who I have become.

It’s ok to be alone – Living single is not as bad as it seems in the movies. There are so many people who are perfectly happy living their lives without being in a relationship. As a matter of fact, I think it’s important for persons to spend some time by themselves before committing to sharing time and space with someone in a relationship for life.

Don’t jump to conclusions and make assumptions – It’s very easy to glance at a situation and make a snap judgment, but this is not a reliable way to build relationships. Take the time to look deeper and see the whole situation, which will give more insight and understanding.

Orgasms are good for you. Have them often – Sexual satisfaction is not only pleasurable, it affects our health positively. If you are in a relationship where you are sexually satisfied, the motivation to build and stay connected is more powerful. In addition, orgasms have physical health benefits as well, so even if you have to take matters in hand and masturbate, get your pleasure on.

Be more patient because no one is perfect – some of us enter a relationship with very high expectations. We expect a partner to fulfil our every need and make us feel complete. If there is any lack in this expectation, we are ready to walk away. The truth is, perfection does not exist and people are flawed. Remember that you will also fall short and make mistakes, so don’t put so much pressure on your partner to be everything to you. Instead, find a partner that you can accept for who he or she is.

Sometimes, you just have to admit you’re wrong and apologise – When we are in the middle of an argument, sometimes we are so busy defending our position that we miss how our actions negatively affect our partner. Sometimes we have to stop and listen and hear something from another perspective and not just try to be right. So just apologising can help to heal a wound and move on from an ugly situation.

I am always happy to see another new year, and I am looking forward to the adventures of the next decade and beyond. I want to take the lessons I’ve learned and make the next phase of my life better. I want to wish everyone a happy, healthy, prosperous 2020!

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