Letting go of sexual inhibitions


May 24, 2016

So we are back to looking at and letting go of sexual inhibitions.

Every day that we wake up, most of us have a daily routine that we are used to, which essentially plays out as if it were the script to our lives. Although this script has become our comfort zone, it is one that we have memorised and followed. When we are engrossed in that routine, it can pigeonhole us and, in some cases, rob us of a life filled with adventure, intrigue, and experience. Discovering and releasing inhibitions can offer an opportunity for us to veer off that beaten path, and just for a while, escape from an everyday redundant routine. This is your chance to write your own script through direct knowledge of what makes you feel happy and excited. Break down the walls of predictability, make some positive changes and empower yourself sexually, because you are in control.


Boundaries empower us to determine how we'll be treated by others, so define your sexual and emotional boundaries by limiting what is safe and appropriate for you sexually and emotionally. For example, a sexual boundary could be that you don't have intercourse on a first date or that you never have intercourse without a condom. An emotional boundary could be that you never say I love you to someone unless you really mean it. Boundaries also include who we interact with sexually and the consequences of that interaction, both of which are your choices. Having boundaries can bring order to our lives and, as we develop a clear vision of our boundaries, we can overcome our inhibitions too.

Just like inhibitions, boundaries are formed early on, and we learn about them by the way that we are treated. We can teach our boundaries to others by refusing to hug someone, refusing to go all the way sexually, or refusing to be emotionally abused by someone who is calling us names and being disrespectful. Once you allow someone to step over your personal boundaries, this is called boundary violation, and it can become an endless cycle of emotional and physical pain. Consequently, I encourage everyone to set their own boundaries through self-awareness and knowledge.

Here are some tips on how to accomplish that:

• Be aware of what arouses you sexually

• Be knowledgeable about your body and its biological changes. If you don't know, how do you expect someone else to?

• Give yourself permission to surrender to pleasure because you are worthy of it and your spouse is also worthy. That's why you gave yourself away to him or her.

• Take responsibility for your own orgasm. Don't expect someone to give it to you. At least, not all the time.

• Share your sexual turn-ons with your spouse. Men, most times, can't figure their women out. We are multi-dimensional, so just talk about it.

• Communicate your wants, needs, desires and fears with your spouse. Again, we can't tell them enough sexually.

• Share your fantasies with your spouse. Everyone has fantasies. It's not a bad thing if it remains in the context of your marriage

Sexual inhibition restricts your potential to enjoy Gods gift to us. Let's not deny ourselves the pleasure.

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