Are you really ready for marriage?


January 12, 2016

OK singles, so you have been asking for some preps for marriage, and that's good because contrary to some opinions, marriage is the capstone of the family and the building block of human civilisation. I believe that a society that does not honour and protect marriage undermines its very existence. Why? Because one of God's designs for marriage is to show the next generation how a husband and wife demonstrates reciprocal, sacrificial love toward each other. So where do you begin?

First, it pays to advertise if you have the goods, but first you must have the goods. I would advise you to take an inner look at yourself and then the question of 'Why do you want to get married?' The fact is that marriage is two becoming one. That means, apart from the biblical mathematics of body, soul, spirit, thoughts, ideas, etc, it is taking someone into your personal space all the time, every time. Are you ready for that? All will seem nice and dandy until you start sharing the space that was yours all along. Be aware that some things get altered when you get married, and the pressures of marriage have a way of bringing out defects (yes, there are pressures and defects).

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There is a myth that we are compatible, but God did not make us that way. We are individuals who are unique and special, hence we make great complimentary companions. However, we are never the same, and should never want to be either. We don't lose individuality when we marry, we just share appreciation and understanding for our spouses, differentness, likes and dislikes, and ask the same of them for ourselves. Don't get me wrong, it's awesome to have someone to share sexy times, secrets, goals and fears, but marriage is more than that. Too many people buy into the myth that marriage is for everyone. I mean, even though marriage has such a bad rep in today's world, and even though so many marriages end in a painful divorce - in spite of this painful reputation - there is this desire on the part of almost everyone to someday get married! Census figures reveal that only about five per cent of the people over 65 have remained unmarried in their lifetime.

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So the vast majority of people in our culture believe that marriage is essential for everyone in life, but this isn't necessarily so. In fact, the Good Book acknowledges that it might be best for some to choose not to marry, speaking to believers of course, but it still applies. You have to think before you leap because you only leap in, you can't leap out. You can decide to get married in a day, but you don't get divorced in a day.

Far too many people wed before they are ready. They rush into this important decision simply because the mood hits them. Do you know that there is a marrying mood sometimes that causes a temporary insanity? Yep! June, December, great sex and a few weeks of novelty and nice dating. Registrar General's Department here we come! It happens and not just on the Internet. People who have no business marrying each other fall in love with the idea of marriage, and make a commitment to start something they are not capable of finishing. Sure, I want you to get married, I will even perform the ceremony for you; but I want you to be ready. Are you?

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